Tuesday, October 24, 2006

am i that bad?

so i was having a conversation in the kitchen last night with vij and business woman; we were talking about how apparently, my "man-radar" is completely non-existent.

vij says: when a man is attracted to me and sends out signals, i don't seem to pick up on them AT ALL; i automatically assume his signals are due to

a) him just being a friendly guy, and/or
b) he's just joking and doesn't mean it.

i just don't seem to know or aren't aware when someone fancies me. i always conclude that they don't. she says that marvin the martian and i aren't sexual twins because whereas he's completely aware of when girls like him (he just chooses not to do anything), i am completely unaware that men like me, and am actually surprised when i find out they do.

oh, and when a man jokes about marriage with you, is that an obvious sign of attraction? i want to know your opinion.

it's not like i think i'm not worthy of being fancied (on the contrary!), and there have been instances in the past where i knew pretty quickly that someone liked me...perhaps it's just lately? maybe my radar's out of sync and needs to be re-tuned? i don't know.

wow, talk about crap swirling around in your head.

CET :o)

8 comments:

J.L said...

If it makes you feel any better... I have a difficult time telling girls I like them.

Those special moments where it's appropriate are so rare.

I'm shy like that.

Anonymous said...

I don't think you're a bad person because you don't know a guy's into you. On the contrary, you're just not superficial, and that's a good thing. It's nicer to develop friendships with people and getting to knwo them on a personal basis instead of lusting after them. You're more into quality, and can't be bothered with boys who have constant crushes (i.e. players).

Canuckian's Evil Twin said...

jason: do you think you're obvious though in showing someone you're attracted to them? you don't have to say it outright, but do you show it in other ways like body language and verbal flirtation?

styx: i'm not saying i'm a bad person because i'm oblivious to male attention, i'm just wondering whether my radar really is that screwed up!

i'm about meeting quality people, sure, but lusting after people is loads of fun too.

CET :o)

J.L said...

Lust.... although it feels good, it's such a waste of time...

Canuckian's Evil Twin said...

depends...i don't think it's a waste of time if that is what you want and nothing else...

CET :o)

J.L said...

Lust... in ones head can lead to serious misconceptions of the other person.

Lust in a physical sense is great.

That's my experience anyway.

Canuckian's Evil Twin said...

i mean lust in a physical sense, mmm...

lust/infatuation/whatever you want to call it in the mental sense sucks ass when it's not reciprocated...

CET :o)

Anonymous said...

I think our general ignorance regarding body gestures was the original impetus for the invention of speech. The first rudimentary sentence was almost certainly: "I can't read your freaking mind, so just say it!" This was then followed up by the phrase, "Dude, I just don't understand women."

Ugh.